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    15 Things You Should Give Up to Be a Happy Parent

    Nicole Melissa PalmerBy Nicole Melissa PalmerSeptember 19, 20186 Mins Read
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    You want to be a happy parent—but your countless responsibilities make this goal challenging! Don’t lose hope just yet. To help parent coach, Carol Tuttle the CEO of Live Your Truth, LLC, is sharing a few things that keep you from happy parenting that you need to give up. Plus, how to fix it. Carol is the author of the best-selling parenting book, The Child Whisperer: the Ultimate Handbook for Raising Happy, Successful, Cooperative Children, which has sold over 75,000 copies worldwide. She also hosts an immensely popular parenting podcast, that hits weekly on important parenting issues commonly experienced by families of all backgrounds.

    Now here are the 15 things you should give up to be a happy parent while raising happy, successful, and cooperative children. Read through them. Be honest with yourself. Then let them go. Allow yourself to be a happy parent for your child — and yourself!

    1. GIVE UP “SUPPOSED TO”

    We were conditioned by our own early family experiences to believe that parenthood or childhood is supposed to look a certain way. But if you hold onto the way things are “supposed” to be, you may miss enjoying how they actually are. Be willing to question what you prioritize as a parent and why.

    2. GIVE UP KEEPING SCORE

    What does your mental score-card keep track of: which parent does more? Who’s most consistent? Which mom contributes most to your child’s class? Who’s most involved in your homeschool group?

    Keeping score wastes energy. Just do what you feel inspired and able to do. Don’t feel obligated by others’ contributions. Don’t obligate them to live up to yours.

    3. GIVE UP FORCE

    As a parent, you have a responsibility to set boundaries. But if a child consistently resists a certain boundary, don’t just force them to comply. Ask yourself and your child, “Why?”

    Think of yourself as your child’s trusted and effective guide, not their dictator. When they experience you as their guide, they’re more likely to listen, which means less struggle and frustration for both of you.

    4. GIVE UP YELLING

    If you’re not a yeller, this one isn’t for you. But if you tend to yell when you’re feeling upset, consider this question: has yelling strengthened your relationship with your child—or not?

    Yelling usually happens in anger, and it often frightens and intimidates children. It destroys trust and a child’s feeling of safety. Pay attention to times and circumstances when you yell and then commit to changing those scenarios in the future.

    5. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO LOOK PERFECT

    Hear me now: there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Embrace your imperfections. Laugh at yourself. The best parents are willing to always learn, change, and improve.

    6. GIVE UP WORRY

    Compulsive worrying doesn’t make your child any safer. It doesn’t make you any happier. And it teaches your children to live in fear. Release your worries, and cultivate gratitude for your child’s safety in the present moment.

    7. GIVE UP ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL RULES

    Every child is unique. What works for one won’t always work for another. Certain standard rules apply across the board (for example, everyone needs to speak respectfully). But consider the possibility that being a fair parent doesn’t mean doing the exact same thing in the exact same way for every child.

    8. GIVE UP THE FOOD FIGHT

    If you demand a certain number of bites from your children, you set yourself up for struggle at the table — and you set your children up for struggles with food later in life.

    Guide, direct, encourage, and prepare healthy food. Let your child voice their preferences. Focus on healthy overall patterns, rather than forcing a certain regimen at a specific meal.

    9. GIVE UP YOUR ROLE AS EVENTS COORDINATOR

    If you feel like parenthood is a treadmill you can’t keep up with, you may be taking too much responsibility for your children’s time. Make plans that support your children’s development, but don’t map out every minute for them.

    Downtime is supportive for many children. Moments of boredom allow children to take responsibility for their own time. Make resources available, and then let your children create the experience they want. You’ll all be happier.

    10. GIVE UP UNHEALTHY SELF-SACRIFICE

    As a parent, you generously give love, time, and attention. But you shouldn’t give up your core self just because you’re a parent. When you ignore your basic needs, you teach your children that when they grow up, they shouldn’t take care of themselves.

    11. GIVE UP GUILT

    Parents sometimes fall into the self-sacrifice trap because they feel unnecessary guilt. Guilt can be useful if you use it to recognize where you need to make changes. But overwhelming, paralyzing guilt that makes you feel worthless as a person or parent doesn’t accomplish anything. You are enough, just as you are.

    12. GIVE UP ONE-SIDED DECISIONS

    As the parent, you often have the final say. But you and your child will both be happier if it’s not the only say. When it’s appropriate to do so, involve your child in decisions that will affect them. By enrolling children in the decision-making process, you’ll empower them to make their own good decisions in the future.

    13. GIVE UP NEGATIVE MESSAGES

    So many messages are repeated to children: you’re too loud, you’re too quiet, you ask too many questions, you’re exhausting, you’re demanding, you’re too talkative, you should make more friends, quit moving, speak up, settle down, smile more.

    Try this instead: comment on the exact same behavior in a positive way. For example, you can see the trait of, “You’re too talkative,” as “You really make friends easily.”

    14. GIVE UP YOUR OWN CHILDHOOD STORY

    What did you experience that you most want your children to avoid? Being teased at school? Lack of money? Feeling not-enough? Your fears may actually set up that same pattern to be re-created. Don’t trap your children now in your fears of the past. Let them go. Create what you want, not what you don’t want.

    15. GIVE UP ON GIVING UP

    I’ve heard from parents who worry that they’ve damaged their child, or that they’ve made a mistake that will last a lifetime. I’ve said this many times: It’s never too late to be a better, happier parent.

    Whether your children are 4 or 40, they respond to genuine love from their parents. The effects of mistakes may take a little longer to overcome if your child is older, but it’s never impossible to show up as the happy, supportive parent that you are meant to be. Don’t give up! You have everything you need to be a good parent.

    Ok, deep breath. It’s time to let go of whatever keeps you stuck and let the happiness in!

    Get your copy: The Child Whisperer, The Ultimate Handbook for Raising Happy, Successful, and Cooperative Children

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    Nicole Palmer is a brand strategist, business coach, and the founder and CEO of Nicole Williams Collective, where she expertly blend management consulting with marketing communications prowess to elevate brands and fuel success. Through consulting and managed services, Nicole helps her clients build personal brands, pivot your careers, grow businesses, land media placements, and become thought leaders. Nicole is obsessed with watching women do good work, make good money, and do what God called them to do.

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